Yeah or that it was extremely complicated, and that no one in my life would respect my new name. Which, the latter, I was right about. I cut all ties I had (except family since I’m stuck with them currently) before changing my name, and eventually I will cut ties with family and receive mail in my name.
I didn’t change my gender, only the name. Many people are so transphobic that a cis person changing their name is just as “bad” as transitioning, and the rest think a cis person’s life is perfect so they only change their name for attention and to be oppressed. I changed my name because it was ugly and othering and it only reminds me of childhood. I legitimately felt like I was stuck in someone else’s body and could never get out and be myself.
I really can’t see why people would oppose either, but had a gut feeling that trans changing their name get more flack for the gender change than the name, so for you to mention name specifically it had to be same gendered.
I hope you’re happy with your new name, and that it helped you feel like yourself.
Was changing your name not possible back then, or were you just not aware that it’s possible?
Yeah or that it was extremely complicated, and that no one in my life would respect my new name. Which, the latter, I was right about. I cut all ties I had (except family since I’m stuck with them currently) before changing my name, and eventually I will cut ties with family and receive mail in my name.
Out of curiosity, is it a gender change name or just a same gender name change? Still can’t figure out why someone wouldn’t respect either.
I didn’t change my gender, only the name. Many people are so transphobic that a cis person changing their name is just as “bad” as transitioning, and the rest think a cis person’s life is perfect so they only change their name for attention and to be oppressed. I changed my name because it was ugly and othering and it only reminds me of childhood. I legitimately felt like I was stuck in someone else’s body and could never get out and be myself.
I really can’t see why people would oppose either, but had a gut feeling that trans changing their name get more flack for the gender change than the name, so for you to mention name specifically it had to be same gendered.
I hope you’re happy with your new name, and that it helped you feel like yourself.