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Cake day: August 20th, 2023

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  • It really does lol. I wasn’t too concerned about this project and have been focusing on the next phase plus a few other projects in the pipeline, but knowing this really helped. My mom is having surgery tomorrow so I’ll have to take care of her for the next few days, plus my wife’s car was throwing some nasty codes that had me stressed. At least now I know work is in a good place as I take a few days off to take care of my mom and tinker with a car.

    Edit: If anyone has any tips for doing a piston soak on a KIA 1.6L engine please let me know. I am not the most mechanically inclined but can follow instructions from repair docs and YouTube videos. My friend who usually helps with my repairs is busy this weekend, but has confidence in me to do this after watching/helping him with DIY repairs over the years. Plus I can justify buying tools lol



  • My wife’s story isn’t too exciting. Her tio and tia were able to get visas in the early 80s and were both Doctors. After they received citizenship and established themselves in the United States, they started helping the rest of the family come over. My wife’s immediate family applied for visas in 95 and was approved in 99. They had a big support system of family already here and gained citizenship a few years later. Her story is one of the better/easier ones and she is very aware of that.

    Without getting into too much personal stuff, she has heard multiple stories of one or two children (as young as 7) getting separated from the rest of their family for a month/months at detention centers. Some of them deal with the trauma better than others . It seems like the younger kids normalized it in their head, but it’s always weird for her when they ask about her immigration story, and how much easier it was for her.



  • Most people don’t. I really didn’t get the whole scope/big picture until my wife (who immigrated as a child and now works with immigrant families) explained the whole process and gave examples of things she’s seen at work and with people in the community. Last night we got dinner with my mom and she asked “OK where are we moving to?” to only get a lengthy conversation of how it’s works and how hard it is. It’s not as easy as buying a plane ticket, selling all your stuff or shipping things to where you are going and then picking up life as normal. I hope most people here realize that, but I felt like it needed to be said.












  • My plan is a nice restaurant I used to work at, invite my in-laws, mom’s side and Dad’s side and call it a day. That would be 13 people, but everyone is asking if that’s what I would really want.

    Yes, that’s what I want and no, I won’t regret doing something this small.

    My wife really pushed a bachelor party 2 years ago before we got married but respected that I didn’t want one/hated the idea of what it would have been. Now it’s just my family thinking I don’t want to make a hassle for my birthday. No, I don’t want any of this. If I could get a great dinner for free, a long weekend from work and just hang out at home that would be perfect.



  • I saw Cujo as a 6 year old and its still sitting with me 25 years later. Our house was always the summer hang out spot for my family since we had a pool, so my aunt and grandma would always go to blockbuster on Friday to get some movies. I got to rent Pokemon Stadium 2 and all I wanted to to was play the game.

    I couldn’t play it until I watched a movie with the family. The adults decided we should watch cujo (the perfect film for kids aged 8, 6, 5 and 4 right?)

    I still have weird memories of watching the movie, getting freaked out and burying my head in the couch to try and not see or hear anything. After the movie my grandma said I could go play my game, and I still associate the Golbat mini game with it since the dog got rabies from a bat.

    So next time you want your grandkid to bond with you, don’t fucking scar them ok?