One thing i have to comment on, blame is much like an excuse. I haven’t had a great childhood myself. Both my parents where mentally challenged, ive been taking care of them since i was 12. But i don’t blame them. It is what it is, and now i move on. I feel blame is another way of saying “i dont have to change because its their fault”
Mind you, i blamed my parents for a while… But in the end, they are just a product of their upbringing. And i choose to not be. I choose to make my own choices, and be responsible for my own life.
I hope you can get past the blame part, and start focussing on what is to come, not that which was. Focus on your “flaws” and change them.
Good luck!
So then it is okay to add another? ;-)