• Betch@lemmy.world
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        What? Like they would’ve sent the screenshot to the boy on purpose? That would be insane. First of all, this is the internet and it’s probably fake but mistakes like that happen all the time.

        Boy is interested in girl, girl knows but isn’t interested and doesn’t know how to handle the situation and wants to ask a friend for help, accidentally replies to the wrong person.

        I think it’s kinda weird that you would assume it’s deliberate.

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          If my mom didn’t do this regularly, I might question if this was intentional. But some people are embarrassingly awful when it comes to texting.

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            I myself do it regularly, especially with contacts who share txt bubble colors.

            I haven’t had anything that awkward happen but I felt like dying when I ruined the surprise for my best friends birthday party last year by texting the non-secret group chat instead of the secret group chat.

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            Even I, a younger millennial who grew up almost right in line with the tech as it grew, have made this mistake. It happens.

            Honestly, maybe even more frequently when you’re adept because everything is so automatic. All it takes is a moment of brain fart to think about the person you’re texting ABOUT as opposed to the person you’re meaning to text, and you click their name accidentally. Or if they’re the two most recent conversations. Fat finger could make it very easy to click the wrong name.

            Fully believable for anyone. Whether or not a screenshot of a text interchange is ever real on the internet is always up for debate, though.

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            So this person and your mom is so adept at image editing in a mobile environment, file management but not selecting who to text

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              Taking a screenshot and cropping it is absolutely trivial on iOS, as long as you know the screenshot button combo.

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                And when you take the screenshot and crop it, there’s a share button at the top you can use to send it. The share screen shows buttons for your most recent text contacts, so it’s really easy to accidentally tap the wrong person this way.

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            Yeah I figured I’d give them the benefit of the doubt and assume it was just a figure of speech.

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          I’ve managed to fat finger my keyboard a few times and hit print screen and without realising it and sending people screenshots of our conversation before. It’s only happened a couple of times, but it happened with the same person…

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        Had a boss so this to me once. Thought he was texting another supervisor how he found my spending time working on a repair project annoying (which was kind of hilarious from my perspective as we all had spent the last three days doing mind numbing busywork and I jumped on doing anything that would look like actual work while giving me a break from appearing to be useful ) and how he hated me being around.

        He basically melted from embarrassment even when I was telling him that I was fine. His text response looked practically identical.

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    See, this could either be a terrible person trying to humiliate someone, or someone who has no idea how to reject someone.

    The fact no identification is included in the screenshot supports the latter, the fact there was no sight of the word sorry in that list of words supports the former.

    The use of the word “boy” is a bit derogatory, but that’s just an acceptable diminutive these days.

    Oh well, I guess we’ll never know who was evil, and must go on with our lives accepting that every story has two heroes and two villains.

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    This thread is a dumpster fire.

    Also: no one has mentioned they maybe this “boy” was actually being sincere and trying to study with someone.

    Of course, it doesn’t matter since this screen shot is most likely not from a real conversation.

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    Having my self esteem issues none of my friends believe I have, no it’s not alright, but I would find it fucking hilarious

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    “My bad. I didn’t realize you were a sociopath. Good luck with all that.”

    blocks

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      I wonder if there’s ever been a murder where they found the victim had been forewarned of an attack, but had the killer’s number blocked and never saw it.

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        Probably. Many murders get committed by ex partners and in an abusive relationship a block is more than understandable.

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      What’s sociopathic about that? If she’s not interested she’s not interested, and many people struggle with uncomfortable social situations like being asked out by someone you aren’t attracted to. Asking a friend for help is a perfectly fine approach to that.

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        For anyone reading this who thinks they need advice on how to say no, “no thanks” is sufficient. You don’t need to involve your community in your decision not to study with someone.

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        She’s asking her friends for tips on how to mock the guy. At least that was my read. I suppose reasonable minds can differ.

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          Asking a friend for help with how to handle an uncomfortable social situation is something that actually happens lol

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              Yes, yes you fucking are, and you know how you get better and more comfortable with it? By getting advice on how to do it right and then fucking doing it. What, would you rather they just never responded? If you got issues so bad you need this kind of help, then get that kind of help so things can improve.

              Sincerely, someone who had those issues and took a lot of time, effort, and help making them better

              Sorry this was way more hostile than I thought it was going to be, it just bugs ne when people are like “if you’re like that you’re a low functioning person” and like, obviously, you’re not saying anything they don’t already know, you’re not helping things

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                It’s cool. You made some valid points and shared your perspective from the opposite side of the fence. Thank you for sharing your perspective and broadening my understanding.

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          Where do you see her looking to mock him? The text is “help me reject this boy” no qualifiers. Hell we don’t see who she meant to send it to. It could’ve been her friends, but it could’ve been a parent, a sibling (possibly even a brother), a partner, anyone. Hell it could’ve been the pope, though that’s highly unlikely.

          When I was a teenager I needed advice on how to reject a boy. He was a friend and I didn’t want to hurt his feelings but it was clear my signals weren’t getting through. I’m not saying she’s definitely not malicious, but I’m also saying that assuming she’s malicious isn’t supported by anything we can see, so Hanlon’s razor should be applied.

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            “Help me reject this boy” doesn’t sound like someone looking for harmless advice. It sounds malicious and bullying. Again, reasonable minds can disagree.

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    He’ll be fine and her offers will dry up if she keeps treating others like that. Chin up, buddy.

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      I mean, why waste his time

      A rude or nice no is still no

      Maybe we should think about what societal factors created such anxiety around turning people down

      Like, I don’t know, the patriarchy

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        Plus there’s the possibility that the screenshot was trying to ask advice from a friend about how to say no. If there was a complete disregard for his feelings the response could’ve just been “lol no” or something equally dismissive.

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          That’s how I’m reading it. Wasn’t really anything mean, just really really unfortunate.

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          Seriously. Like even when not feeling threatened, turning people down is awkward. I have a perfect excuse and I’m still embarrassed and awkward about it. And if you like them in a friendly way there’s a fine needle to thread of trying to communicate a sincere desire for platonic friendship.

          I get asking people out leaves you vulnerable, I know it all too well. But being asked out also leaves you vulnerable, which I also know all too well. And while some people learn this skill young and quickly, many don’t.

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        I think it’s pretty standard society wise to start polite or “nice” and then move to rude. At the very least reciprocating the energy received which doesn’t strike me as rude. You can be polite and brief if that is desired.

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          I don’t think they are. I think they’re saying that the patriarchy is to blame for the awkwardness around rejection, and therefore the cause of the blunder. As in like, the boy was collateral damage.

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            Exactly. They were insinuating that the person turned this guy down awkwardly and disrespectfully because of the “patriarchy”, whatever that means. The person being turned down was mistreated because of the other person’s misconceptions and preconceptions. Theres another term for that, but you can only lead a horse to water.

            Alternatively, a simpler explanation is that the person who sent the text is just a douche bag, and didn’t care about this person’s feelings and wasn’t brave enough to let them know three or more unwanted advances prior.