• flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz
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    4 days ago

    You don’t have to.

    Anything really. No matter what your friends say, what your family says, you’re not obligated to live your life in a way which is not comfortable for you. Or put yourself into situations you dislike just to please other’s expectations.

    Do it your way. Do your best to be a good person of course (according to whichever moral standard you hold). But do it your way.

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      2 days ago

      The word “No” is such a life-changer and it’s definitely something I learned to apply only recently. I grew up being told to be obedient. Parents demanded it and school enforced it. It made me into a people pleaser and it sucked having to do things that I did not enjoy simply because it was what was expected of me.

      I’m still struggling with No but I’ve been trying everyday to keep saying No to things I don’t particularly like.

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      4 days ago

      Apathy is also my old guy super power. Not about everything, just all the shit that doesn’t matter.

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      3 days ago

      Oh thank God. I really don’t want to shower or brush my teeth. It’s good to hear that I can just decide I don’t want to.