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  • You’re out of line. Their mother voted for the candidate that wants to eliminate people like OP. Their reaction was more than appropriate.

    Let’s assume all three things you said are correct (even though I disagree) - if your goal is to improve the relationship and change someone’s opinions as a person, you’re going to need to start by reducing friction.

    I’ll give an extreme example - Let’s say you had the opportunity to have a 30 minute 1:1 phone call with Trump. If you start spewing leftist speech, nothing will happen after you hang up the phone. If you pretend to be his buddy, gas him up, and then drop some cues about how The People want to see UBI, it will stick 50x more in his mind.

    Again, I feel like I need to caveat this - For the goal of improving a relationship, the attack angle makes makes no sense.


  • I told my mom the other day that she clearly doesn’t love or care about me because of the way she voted. I don’t believe she can both love her trans daughter while simultaneously willingly inflicting as much suffering as possible. I decided to block her for a few days.

    You’ve gotten a lot of advice but I want to focus on this point. What on earth did you think was going to happen? You’re out here making the relationship worse, for no potential upside, and then acting Pikachu when it gets worse.

    Healthy relationships require continuous investment to build. It doesn’t matter if your mum isn’t doing that, it is very clear from your post that you’re not either.

    (Note: I don’t disagree with other people that your mum and aunt are crazy/terrible/whatever, but at the end of the day those things are irrelevant to my point)