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Cake day: July 31st, 2023

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  • Yeah I think hate is a draining and destructive emotion.

    There’s situations where it should be used, but it should be used wisely. For example, it takes an insane amount of shady behavior to get under my skin, but when people do, they earn my hate and that makes me set very solid boundaries. But it would be bad to destroy friendships for hating someone because we got on each other’s nerves for a while.


  • No.

    You have a kid, but it’s your decision.

    Sounds like she’s trying to skip the part where she fucked up and she should apologize to you and give you some space. Instead she’s leaving you an impossible choice.

    But you can talk to your son and tell him how much it stings and that you just can’t do it. Sure you can “put all the bad blood behind” but it takes two for that and you can’t force someone to reconcile by pressuring them with their son and luring them with a paid for vacation.

    This makes me mad for you, this is so unfair. No one has to take that offer, and your son will understand. Maybe your ex will understand too, but it looks like she’s still too immature to understand right now.


  • Really hard to give advice when there’s a lot of factors involved, like:

    • how long have you been together with your kid and your second wife?
    • did she know what she was signing up to?
    • how much time are you dedicating to her vs to the kid?

    And then, jealousy is a subjective feeling. Now because you know how she feels, if you are spending basically no time with her then you might be able to carve out some more time for the both of you, but the main part of dealing with the feels is on her. Growing a better connection to you or the kid is also on her. And communication is key. Relationships are hard and complicated, that’s why you gotta talk a lot.


  • I think there’s currently over a hundred potential victims individually or collectively suing him.

    And before anyone starts searching, please take this trigger warning. It’s one of those cases that seems to have about the worst allegation making him look like a real monster.

    We’ll see how much of that will stick in trial but it’s looking really bad for him.







  • I feel you.

    Felt that way a lot with friends and it makes me irrationally angry when it happens multiple times in a row, so I make it a point to ask other people what they were gonna say before they got interrupted. Makes everyone be more respectful and the people who get interrupted feel heard and can share their stories still.

    But yeah pretty sure this is the exact reason I kinda distanced myself from one of my friends. She didn’t even acknowledge when I said something so I was just present and that’s about the only reason she wanted me there for I assume. Still makes me mad considering how much I tried to improve my social skills and stuff just to be a ghost irl again.


  • Yeah none of this is good advice generally.

    A person who just made a suicide attempt nedds routine and normality but with a lot of friendly interactions sprinkled throughout that.

    Sometimes family can even be one of the reasons a person gets so driven to go that far.

    So cutting off contact and potentially making his family put even more pressure on him is one of the worst things you could do.

    Cutting off contact only helps if you can’t handle the situation or the person anymore, and that still doesn’t help them, it just shields you from mental stress.