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Cake day: March 27th, 2024

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  • Have a conversation and listen to her. I’m guessing that her behaviors are driven by an emotion. Maybe she’s overwhelmed by the complexity. Most people who say that they don’t care about security actually prioritize ease of use over security. Unfortunately good security can be hard.

    If/when you speak to her, don’t try to solve her problems during that conversation. Meet her where she’s at and empathize with her. When she’s done, you get to express your concerns and see her reacting. I’m guessing that you’re concerned that she is putting her finances at risk. Explain your concern to her.

    Once you both come to a shared understanding, then you can come with some ideas for her to react to. Again, dig deep into her concerns, talking through them. You’re going to need to let some things go. It’s her life and her money and you’ll be there to help in a nonjudgemental way if anything bad happens and then you can have another conversation after the dust has settled.

    I ended up with my parents having 3 passwords. One for their bank, one for their health stuff and one for everything else. The bank and health ones are long and difficult to guess, the other one is easy to remember and “good enough”.






  • I’ve never heard this, bit have tried to explain it to people and failed. If you’re going to try to find a vegan substitute for a thing, most of the time it will fail to impress because it’s not the thing that it’s pretending to be. Take vegan cheese. It’s probably worse for you than regular cheese because it’s super processed.

    I have several meals that I make that are vegan, but don’t need to be labeled as vegan because it’s not a substitute. For example, I make chili with those big mushrooms because I like the taste, but I don’t call it a vegan chili, I call it a mushroom chili.


  • It’s actually a little less happy. He was late stage cancer and either the chemo or cancer was affecting his thought. He was bend transferred to a hospice care facility, but only understood that he was leaving the hospital. We were on the phone and I had purchased a plane ticket and he was saying how I shouldn’t have because it’s much nicer to visit in the summer, but that he was getting out of the hospital and maybe we’d go to this new golf course that he had just discovered and then his favorite restaurant. I agreed and we said goodbye and he said, “I’ll see you later.”

    When Mom got back on the phone, she said that he was confused and that he was actually going to hospice care. It didn’t really register because he seemed so normal. He had fallen into a coma shortly after getting transferred to the hospice facility and passed by the time I got there.

    He was firmly atheist, so I chuckle to think that maybe he knew something when he said those last words. I guess we’ll see.






  • I’ve been in earthquakes, tornadoes, a hurricane and a few floods. Also, ice and hail storms, many blizzards, thunderstorms and straight line winds. The tornadoes are always the most frightening.

    The bigger of the earthquakes was just enough to move the dishes around in the cupboards so that when I went for a cup, a bunch fell out. The closest tornado hit a few streets over from where I lived and bounced, destroying every other house down one side of a street. The hurricane just blew sand around and covered the car in a sand dune. I lost several cars to floods and had to be rescued once.

    I should probably go check out a tsunami some time to fill out my disaster bingo board.





  • r0ertel@lemmy.worldtohmmm@lemmy.worldhmmm
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    2 months ago

    Despite all the hate, I do have one of these. I used to have a box next to my furnace with a male end, wired up to the switch so that if the power went out for a longer duration in the winter, I could plug the furnace into the generator with an extension cord and heat the house. When the furnace was replaced, I was too lazy to wire up another. A friend who’s dad is a master electrician told us that in an emergency, you could flip all the breakers in the box to off including that mains, use a male to male cable to plug the generator into a wall outlet and flip on the furnace breaker and the breaker where the generator is plugged in and power the furnace that way (so long as both circuits were amp rated the same).

    Of course, it came with a disclaimer that he’d deny telling us this to the insurance company and a warning that “bad things would happen” if we somehow enabled the mains to the power company.



  • How is it a troll for attention? What kind of attention? Does it really matter on the internet?

    True or not, it’s really only a relatively new problem and only in western cultures (to my limited knowledge.) It wasn’t that long ago in Europe where kids, specifically girls, had a mate chosen for them, especially in upper classes. In India, it’s still a prevalent tradition. It’s really only western cultures that have the “love conquers all” ideal. Personally, I find it fascinating to talk to people who are successful and happy in an arranged marriage.


  • r0ertel@lemmy.worldtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.worldxxx
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    3 months ago

    I’d be mostly ok with it because of noise canceling headphones, but when the neighbors rev it up and down and up and down, the headphones can’t keep up. When the other neighbor’s lawn service comes, they use it on high speed for 7.5 minutes, then go away and I barely hear it.