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Cake day: July 14th, 2023

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  • abusive ex, whom taught me what panic attacks are and how to handle them, yelled at me a lot while i was having one at her house with no ride home. then she wordlessly got up and left for an hour during which i called my fucking mom like “i don’t know what’s happening please come get me”. ex shows up a little before my ride gets there and tells me that what had happened was i started to get worked up, so she left to give me some space. i just wanted to get home so i didn’t push back. then the next week she retold me the story as “you freaked out over nothing and i had to be supportive” and outright demanded that i apologize.

    i broke up with her over it, but i recently learned she told all our mutual friends a bizzaro-world reversed version of the story wherein i stranded myself at her house just so i could give her a panic attack and then leave with her car. there’s loads of evidence as to what really happened, but i’m an introvert and didn’t play defense hard enough in the moment, so i did just lose that entire friendgroup.

    probably for the best though. lifelong friends of manipulators tend to not be fantastic folks to rely on anyways lmao


  • i always just hang shit somewhere it won’t impede airflow and let it be. the ONE time i bought a prebuilt system was the only time i’ve had a computer with the cables remotely “managed”.

    unfortunately one of the zip ties they used impeded the fan on the cpu cooler, but only when the case was closed. it made this buzzing noise that i couldn’t track down for months, and then the motherboard failed. and then the replacement motherboard failed.

    i went back to building my own computers again after that.





  • My dad has a friend try to talk him into amway sometime in the late 80s/early 90s. He had painted a pyramid shape onto cinder blocks in his basement to explain the revenue stream and everything.

    He said no, but that friend ended up high enough in a payment chain that he’s still rich as sin, and my dad got to be one of the scant few that turned down what would’ve actually been a lucrative business venture in a pyramid scheme.


  • tangential but, when i was teenage-ish i had a friend of a friend that was always kind of standoffish with me. i’m a people pleaser so i was always looking for some way to connect with this guy, but i reckon that was coming across in a weird/bad way.

    anyway at one point i found out we had the same birthday, year and everything! i thought it was pretty neat, but he thought i was lying. i got really insistent because from my perspective i had no reason to lie about something so mundane, and ig that rubbed him the wrong way because iirc he never spoke to me again.





  • i respect your perspective, i’m absolutely not unblocking it tho.

    it’s not the fact that they defended the man, it’s the way they were doing it. my experience has been wholly more enjoyable post-block, and i’d recommend anyone else in my shoes do the same thing.

    i saw too much bad faith engagement to validate staying around in spite of “a few bad apples”. for a hot minute if it was posted on .world then anyone arguing for the bear in the comments would get dogpiled and downvoted to shit, and to me that was indicative of a larger problem than just “being too popular”