Nex Benedict died one day after a fight in a school bathroom. Their mother Sue Benedict tells Bevan Hurley that the gender fluid teenager endured more than a year of abuse simply for being who they were
  • Flying Squid@lemmy.world
    472·
    10 months ago

    They aren’t using whatever bathrooms they want. They are using the bathroom that people of their gender are supposed to use.

    But do explain to us why you want this man to be in a women’s bathroom. Or locker room.

    That is Ben Melzer. He is a male model. He was also born biologically female.

    Do you think women would feel comfortable or safe with him in there?

      • Flying Squid@lemmy.world
        352·
        10 months ago

        And their “gender” is whatever they want it to be so, yes they are.

        No.

        Their gender is not a choice.

        Do you think being gay is a choice as well?

        I mean this is an anecdote. And an exceptional one at that. I can show you a dozen women who look like men. Women like the one in the OP who was beaten to death in a women’s bathroom.

        I see, so it’s okay for trans people to use the bathroom of their gender as long as they don’t look like they’re trans.

          • Flying Squid@lemmy.world
            252·
            10 months ago

            No it wasn’t. At all. I think trans people should use the bathroom of their gender period.

            But then I don’t think being trans is a choice.

            You didn’t answer my question- is being gay a choice?

              • Flying Squid@lemmy.world
                212·
                10 months ago

                Sorry… are you now saying that being trans is a choice because some people pretend to be trans? Also, how exactly do you take advantage of women by pretending to be trans?

                This is some weird TERF shit.

                  • Flying Squid@lemmy.world
                    201·
                    10 months ago

                    Women wouldn’t be uncomfortable because he looks like a man.

                    He is a man.

                    Women would be uncomfortable because a man would be forced to use their bathroom.

                    I’m not sure why this isn’t clear to you. Oh, wait, yes I do, because you think being trans is a choice, like so many bigots before you.

                  • HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social
                    12·
                    10 months ago

                    Sorry, can you unpack exactly what you think being trans is, please? You’ve gestured in a couple of directions this thread, but I’d rather have a direct explicit answer than trying to infer it and possibly be wrong.

              • BreakDecks@lemmy.mlEnglish
                103·
                10 months ago

                No. But people don’t go around pretending to be gay to take advantage of women.

                Oh, you’re just a bog standard conspiratorial TERF. It’s all making sense now.

          • gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
            32·
            10 months ago

            just dont go around pretending like bathroom rules got this kid killed.

            Had they been allowed to use the other bathroom they wouldn’t have been beaten to death by girls in the girls bathroom, would they?

      • NarrativeBear@lemmy.world
        7·
        10 months ago

        Could we not just have gender neutral bathrooms? ie. A hallway/long room with 5 doors on each side and behind each of those doors you have a sink/toilet/urinal. Each door is actually a door from floor to ceiling.

          • NarrativeBear@lemmy.world
            4·
            10 months ago

            Absolutely, no pretending here, bullying is a larger systemic issue that requires many different approaches to solve. It’s not a one size fits all solution in a sense and requires all of us as a society to work together.

            Just as there are many different types of bullies, there are many different vectors of bullying, such as in person, online, or indirect. Each would need a different approache to mitigate.