• MTK@lemmy.world
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    Sadly, this is so common around the world, I would say that if this poll was done for every person in the world we would have maybe even a tie.

    I’m talking about child marriages (which are legal and common in some US states) they are basically this, except there is less money, some of it goes to the parents, some to the child (because shared assets)

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      In the States where child marriage is not legalized, it’s treated as an informally arranged marriage. Basically, one guy promises his daughter to another guy in exchange for something and they wait until the girl is 18 or in some cases 17 or 16 before getting anything on paper.

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          Are you seriously trying to say that, because of this random online post on a predominantly male site (where most of the yes answers for “women” are likely men) that means that the predatory group isn’t overwhelmingly men when it comes to child marriages? Or am I just cataclysmically misunderstanding your comment about the stated gender of the responses of post in response to someone simply talking about girls getting informally married off to men?

          The UNFPA & UNICEF report that 95% of adults who marry children are men, while 5% are women. Between 85% and 95% of marriages between a child and an adult involve an adult male marrying a girl. The UN claims that in the US in particular, 86% of married children are girls, a significant majority of whom are married to adult men. According to the UNFPA, globally 25-30% of women get married before age 18, while 3-5% of men get married before age 18; and while most girls who get married are married to adult men, most boys who get married are married to girls (who are also children). Additionally, 10% of women get married before age 15, while 0.3% of men get married before age 15. This is likely because 1. a majority of cultures are highly patriarchal and young girls are often “sold off” as sex objects for (usually wealthy) men and 2. females are highly likely to be able to reproduce before 15, while males are more likely to not be able to reproduce until mid-adolescence, so girls are married much younger (again, nearly always adult men) in order to have children, while boys are usually married to girls around their age because they can have children anyways.

          It’s not like child marriage between boys and adult women doesn’t happen, but let’s not pretend that an overwhelming majority of adults marrying children aren’t men marrying girls. The same goes for these unofficial marriages.

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      if this poll was done for every person in the world we would have maybe even a tie.

      “Hello person in desperate poverty, I am your landlord and I am here to offer you a discount on the exorbitant rents I charge you for existing. All you need to do is this single morally abhorrent thing. After that, you’re on easy street for the rest of your life.”

      I suspect the number of people who would take this deal is well over 50%, if for no other reason than being press ganged into doing morally repugnant things by an exploitative economic system is the norm and the enormous payout is the exception.

      A better way to spin this is to rephrase the question: “Blah blah 14 year old blah blah everyone consents, in exchange for $120 half of which goes to your pimp.” Then you get to the more grisly truth of what’s being asked, and the popularity falls significantly.

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      Where I live, it’s called arranged marriage, a form of forced marriage where parents choose who their child should live with. It’s more common than many people would imagine, especially among women, girls and other non-male genders, and 93% of married Indians had an arranged marriage (data from a 2018 survey, source: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-59530706)