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      correct, it’s not (or shouldn’t be), but it’s being used as one, especially recently!

      in this post i hope to call attention to the same destructive processes happening to “neurodiverse” as to all the other terms, but especially to the ableist motivations behind it.

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          precisely? never said otherwise :) to quote another person right in this thread whom i agree with:

          It’s an insult because of intent, not because of the word itself, though.

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          oh awesome my bad i will be sure to ignore the context for all further potential ableist issues 🙄 blocked for bad faith and generally being no fun

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            I’m autistic, adhd, and I had a brain injury. Triple neurodivergent. 🙄

            Go ahead and block me, I don’t really care, I think without context you taking offense to calling someone who is gullible “neurodivergent” seems over sensitive. Autistic people in particular unfortunately can be gullible and people abuse that.

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              eh they’ve been on thin ice for a hot second. rather distasteful behavior all around :(

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    Idk man, a good chunk of these are just sorta not that associated with their origins anymore. A lot of insults are historically demeaning towards certain groups (especially poor people).

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      as always, act everything considering the window of present you are in. “idiot” means a lot less offense today than it did back in the day.

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    I’ve been thinking about how we call people “right-handed” and “left-handed” instead of “handedness-typical” and “handedness-divergent”

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    seeing as ableist terms are always rooted in previously uncontroversial medical terms i propose the term “the swag ones”

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    today i learned that ‘cretin’ has ableist origins. just hearing the word, and being completely unaware of its origins, i assumed it had racist origins and was somehow related to the isle of crete.

    apparently ‘cretinism’ is an old-timey word for congenital iodine deficiency syndrome.

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      okay wow TIL too! i was just pulling from memory and a few online examples but i never dove into the specific histories of that particular word!

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      I have an older family member who is severely mentally disabled and always has been. His medical records diagnosed him as r*tarded. The adults diagnosing him at the time didn’t understand enough about mental conditions and their differences when he was a child. So kids like him were diagnosed with that. It did have more ‘legitimate’ uses than it does in our current context. Doesn’t make it good or right, doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have tried to be more specific either. That legacy leads to now where we have the nuance and resources to do better. I am glad it’s more and more relagated to the past as it’s consistently been used to dehumanize people.

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        The euphemism treadmill rather implies we simply load all the meaning and intention on a new word when the old one becomes unacceptable.

        But that clearly isn’t the case with this series of words. Many of these words have clearly different meanings and different social stigmas, and some are in use at the same time.

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          not at all what im discussing but, glad you were able to come to your own conclusion on this

          for my part, no opinion. i just think calling people ableist insults is bad.

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      I mean I’d say the asterisk is overdoing it, and that this is mostly because retard isn’t used as a medical diagnosis anymore. If it does ever really die expect special needs or another such word to take its place.

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        Oftentimes people ask me why I bother using the asterisk at all. And the answer isn’t to pay respect to those who have been othered for their entire lives by this language, or to minimize the chance of a ban from heavyhanded mods. It’s actually to make you upset, specifically.

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      Anything is ableist if that’s the intention is to be ableist. “Cognitive impairment” or “Brain damage” are clinical terms, but if one decides they can also be ableist insults.

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    Interesting. Feels like there’s a bit of a paradox, where we need a term to address a group of people who are being “othered,” but while that’s the case, there will be people who use that term as an insult.

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      the better strategy might be to investigate and challenge what forces cause people to use ableist insults

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        True. Or just discard their attempts to taint the language. Like how some slurs have been reclaimed.

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          yea! reclamation is my personal fav cuz its so gorgeously petty

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      never thought of it that way, but yeah, lowkey! though it’s definitely in a different class of “insult” when compared to the ones in OP. more passive agression, snide rather than forced.

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    Shouldn’t this, then, extend to all implications of stupidity in behavior, not just individual words?

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      Good thought, because yes, this rule applies to a lot of behaviors—insulting someone’s actions or reasoning can sometimes carry ableist implications if we’re not careful. But no, it doesn’t mean all implications of foolishness are inherently ableist. It’s entirely possible to critique someone’s choices, reasoning, or behavior without tying it to assumptions about intelligence or ability. The key is focusing on what they did or said rather than who they are.

      For example: “I see you’ve chosen confidence over accuracy again.” This critiques someone’s approach or behavior—being overly confident while wrong—without targeting their intelligence or abilities.

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        Is it permissible, conversely, to describe things as smart, in a positive sense?

        Furthermore, doesn’t choosing confidence over accuracy itself imply that reduced accuracy is a bad thing, despite it being something that people with reduced intellectual capacity cannot reasonably avoid?

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          I can’t think of examples right now, (edit: but thought of some later) but it’s definitely possible to describe something as “smart” in a way that’s ableist—like if it ties someone’s value only to intelligence or reinforces stereotypes about who’s considered “smart.” However, I’m sure the vast majority of ways to describe something as “smart” wouldn’t really be considered ableist and so are “permissible” in my book.

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            How so? Isn’t necessarily acknowledging intelligence as a positive quality imply lack of it is a negative one?

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              Ah, we have a difference in terms here.

              Acknowledging intelligence as a positive quality

              is never ableist.

              Acknowledging intelligence as a positive quality

              can be ableist, depending on what values are being cast.

              It’s about how intelligence is framed in relation to others and whether it’s used to dismiss people who might not fit those standards.

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                Ah, we have a difference in terms here.

                Acknowledging intelligence as a positive quality

                is never ableist.

                Acknowledging intelligence as a positive quality

                can be ableist, depending on what values are being cast.

                I don’t understand what you’re saying here. Acknowledging intelligence as a positive quality is acknowledging intelligence as a quality.

                It’s about how intelligence is framed in relation to others and whether it’s used to dismiss people who might not fit those standards.

                So it’s your opinion that the upholding of standards that cannot be met by some individuals by inherent lack of capacity is unacceptable?

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                  Acknowledging intelligence as a positive quality is acknowledging intelligence as a quality.

                  Here’s an example where it’s not: “Of course you got in, you [are(n’t) Asian/were in the gifted program/have ASD].”

                  These examples are rare bifecta of ✅ acknowledging intelligence as a positive quality ✅ casting value judgement on those who do or do not fit that quality

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        I see you’ve chosen confidence over accuracy again

        This is honestly a great way of calling someone stupid, but you do realise that it can be very offensive to people with narcissistic personality disorder, right?

        Joke aside, what is really stupid about this is the idea of “insulting someone without hurting there feelings”, or as you wrote

        insulting someone’s actions or reasoning can sometimes carry ableist implications if we’re not careful.

        When honestly insulting someone, there is typically an intent to be hurtful, the idea that you should be careful to “not use language that can offend X group” when doing so, kind of overlooks the whole situation of “insulting” going on

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    Tone policing won’t fix that some people predictably make fucking terrible decisions, for no sensible reason, and we need to deal with that and warn others about it.

    Which is why the real solution is for every forum to fuck off with enforced civility and let people call each other assholes. Some of them will deserve it. Moderation exists primarily to make that call. You’re not just a filter for no-no words. You’re a human being and you’re expected to have an opinion.

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    “You’re not normal! You CAN’T be normal, because then I’ll no longer be THE normal! SHUT UP, THIS IS THE CONDITIONER FOR THE THREAD BY WHICH MY SANITY IS HANGING!”

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      “how can i have an identity without establishing and then demonizing an outgroup!?!”