Memory issues, here. I didn’t think I would have bad memory issues until just a while ago, I had a thought on the tip of my nose, but forgot it in seconds and how it took me minutes to recall it. That’s a key sign right there.
Some people have better memory in old age, like it’s unreal sometimes with what some of them can remember. While the average person forgets thoughts in moments.
As someone with ADHD I’ve suffered with memory losses all my life!
Ahead of the curve…
I hope the ADHD doesn’t get worse as we age
I think the border symptoms do get worse and your medication resistance might increase (also, if your weight is increasing the same dosage will be less effective)… but in terms of the primary symptoms - I think they decrease. Or rather, I think our ability to cope and mask increases as we age. I’m currently a manager and keeping on top of other people doing their tasks and having their needs met is something I never imagined being able to do but now that I’m doing it it’s all sort of just working.
We get more skilled at dealing with our executive disorder as we age. We plan better for the possibility that we’ll be in an off mood or down a rabbit hole… we are (hopefully) more comfortable with sharing our condition with our relations so that partners are aware of our difficulties and strengths and can react accordingly - especially once we can overcome the deep shame about ADHD being a personal failing that was beaten into most of us… we give our brain time to indulge and better set internal expectations and accept that some weekends we’ll never touch a feather duster while other weekends we’ll deep clean our living space and just… be okay with that.
I’m sure in the extremes it’s rough and there are studies that our ADHD is an increased risk factor for dementia so… eventually we’re all probably fucked… but hopefully that’s a long way off.
I expected the health problems, the memory loss, all that stuff. The only old person thing I hoped would never happen is becoming a right-wing shithead. Nothing so far!
No way! Better dead than red!
I’ve been worried my mother might go that way, just from age, but luckily she’s been getting more left as the years go on. This gives me hope for myself as well!
“Get off my lawn”, but not in a very bad way. lol. Now that I live in a house, I have to admit I get mildly infuriated when I see people walking across my front lawn or parking right by my driveway. But I don’t confront them or anything, I just stare menacingly behind half closed window blinds where they can’t see me.
You could lay a lovely path across your garden and then you’d never be annoyed about it and perhaps you’d even be proud when people use it.
Loss of imagination, patience, optimism
Now this is what I fear. The gradual loss of the childful optimism and joy. I have already lost some of it, but I’m sure it could be brought back. ^^
The gradual loss of the childful optimism and joy.
When I was a (hungry and impoverished) child, I was optimistic that hunger and poverty could be solved.
As an adult who teaches the study of humans, it is quite clear that the solutions are convenient enough, so will not be attempted.
Hungry children it is.
Back pain, sometime i need to stretch hard to ease the pain and i’m not even midlife
Do you have a massage ball? 5 bucks. Against wall. Don’t go over the spine.
Had another poster point this is out, and after thinking on it, I have the same issue and cure. Go walking.
If I sit on my ass for a day or three, my lower back gets really sore. As long as I’m active, no problem.
I’m skinny and always have been, YMMV.
I work blue collar so i’m plenty active, i think it’s just me having accumulate all them back stress over the years it becoming bad now. I’m gonna try with a good mattress and see if it help though.
Deadlifts fixed my backaches at age 29. Haven’t had any issues since as long as I keep up the routine.
Husband says the same. Deadlifts fixed his back. I have this far been lucky but do yoga 4x/week and lift once or twice a week. The yoga I am sure really helps.
23 here and I have back pain, but a good exercise can always fix this real fast
Mine got fully away after buying a really good (and expensive) gaming chair and a new mattress. The gaming industry has done so much for our health, it’s insane. :)
Don’t get gaming chairs. Get a good office chair. Like a herman miller chair
hearing loss; vision impairment; bad back; hernias; hypertension; diabetes.
some people are afraid that they’re turning into their mother or their father; while i’m turning into both at the same time.
Almost 50. Most of (back pain, muscle pain, articulary pains…) my “age” issues have been cured (well, improved…) By an highly active sport life. Think of -daily- activity, not walks, but mixing running and swimming actively. It took one years or so, but I feel 38 again. The trick is NEVER stop, keep doing sport never let more that one or two days pass by without at least 1h run or 1h swim. Get proper clothes and shoes, RUN PROPERLY, and be very progressive not to injure your ligaments.
(Except for those small prints, I swear they used to write them bigger… And small cuts healing that still take ages…)
Also, my memory has improved. Maybe it’s all the time I can let my mind free while swimming or running… And indeed my stress levels have dropped.
Approaching 50 as well. Definitely need to get more active, I just have some physical issues from old injuries and conditions. I know I can find something to increase my activity though. Biking, swimming, something out there is doable.
Absolutely do it.
Swimming for example, I hated it, but after starting doing it in open water, I changed my mind. Now I like it, even in the swimming pool.
And cycling is also great, no joint issues on that!
Pm me if need any support
lol… where do I start?
Eyes, went from being able to read the tiniest font to not being able to read a large font book in about 2 years.
2 knee surgeries
Getting up to pee 2x a night
Getting up to pee 2x a night
I hate that too but I’m just glad I still have enough bladder control to actually wake up for it. I dread possibly losing that someday.
Might be a good idea to err on the side of caution and get a prostate exam. Especially if it increases in frequency.
Thanks. I don’t have a prostate but incontinence is more common in women. At the first sign of a leakage problem, you bet I’m heading to the doctor right away.
About the peeing at night, a doctor I saw in TV said that if during the day you don’t go immediately to pee when you feel the need but when you REALLY need to, then it’s easier to stay sleeping at night. He explained how there are 2 mechanisms to control pee: the bladder (I think that’s the word in English?) and the brain. And that quite often we train the brain to go to pee before it’s phisically needed.
Might be a good idea to err on the side of caution and get a prostate exam. Especially if it increases in frequency.
I feel great physically, but:
Finally got hips at 50 (neither pregnancy not age changed my lean build until age 50).
Both nearsighted and farsighted now instead of just nearsighted.
And my goodness, supper at teatime is the best! We go out to eat at 4pm all the time now. So funny, I used to wait until after 8pm but now prefer either a late breakfast and a teatime meal, or lunch and early supper.
I’ve never had a great memory, wouldn’t say it’s gotten worse yet.
You can do some stuff to help fight the memory issues. Push hard to keep learning new things. Find complicated problems to solve and keep solving them.
Nothing accelerates cognitive decline faster than becoming complacent and avoiding mentally challenging activities.
is there any reason research you know of that supports this? I am interested in the idea of keep learning to prevent degrading.
A bunch of studies have been run over the years. I’ve heard it every three or four years for probably the past decade or two.
A quick search will net a bunch of them. Search for scientific articles that show new learning decreases cognitive decline in old age.
You’ll get stuff like this:
https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/learning-new-skill-can-slow-cognitive-aging-201604279502
Joint pain. Muscle pain. Drastically slower healing if minor cuts and scrapes.
You thought those wouldn’t affect you???
Not before the age of 30!!! At least not this badly
It’s going to get worse.
Genetics are not on my side in this regard. Extensive family history of everything under the sun, including degenerative joint issues, hypermobility, diabetes, blood pressure, etc…
I started having trouble with one of my knees when I was a teenager, probably due to reckless behavior. Still have chronic joint pain, with most of them, but at least I don’t get the acute knee pain anymore. I can usually tell when my knee movement is going to cause problems and stop the action before it kicks in. But it’s been at least a year since i was pain free without medication.
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The switch to progressive lenses happened far sooner than I was hoping.
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Graying in the beard stayed away for a long time, and then in a matter of a year, decided to attack with all of its might. (Probably the same on my head too, but I’ve been shaving it forever so I wouldn’t know)
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Heartburn troubles. Though that was less about ageing and more about gaining weight after quitting smoking twelve years ago.
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Needing a cane. I’m not even that old, barely 50, but I’ve been on a cane as a necessity for almost twenty years now. The early part of that was spotty, after I had enough physical therapy to get off of a walker entirely, I slowly got to the point where I could skip the cane for most things while I tried going back to work.
That utterly failed lol. By 2008, it was pretty much mandatory anywhere but home, and over the years moved to being anywhere outside the house at all, with some days where it’s inside too.
Kinda crazy looking back on it because now it seems like I’ve been in this situation my entire life, but it also doesn’t feel like twenty years. Which, it isn’t quite 20 yet, but IDGAF about precision on this lol.
But back as a kid, I always thought of canes as being for really old people. I kinda knew it wasn’t only for old people, but the concept of it was like that.
Arthritis is the other one. I had no idea until it started up in my hands in my twenties that arthritis wasn’t purely for people older than that. I’d never run into it, and had somehow also never read about it. But rheumatoid arthritis isn’t ageist, it turns out.
Aging. I didn’t expect to live through my twenties due to a reckless lifestyle that included lots of drugs and partying and rubbing shoulders with questionable types of people. I saw an old lady being helped walking with a younger woman at age ~27 and went, oh shit. That might be me one day. I had severely chilled out and converted to a more typical lifestyle by then.
Memory problems can occur after getting Covid, maybe that’s a factor as well?
